Forgiveness – Part 2
“Self-pity is easily the most destructive of the nonpharmaceutical narcotics; it is addictive, gives momentary pleasure and separates the victim from reality.” ~John W. Gardner
(Continued from Part 1)
The problem with blaming something outside of us is this: when we play victim, we give away our power. Then, when we live from a place of disempowerment, we continue to attract more of the same into our lives. Essentially, it becomes like a vicious circle that seems impossible to break away from.
For a significant part of my life, I chose to play the part of victim. Being the perfectionist that I was, I played the part very, very well. I can assure you from personal experience that being a victim in life is not an easy way to live.
Several years ago, I decided I did not want to be a victim anymore. The role had wreaked its havoc one too many times and I decided that it no longer served me. All it had accomplished was to give me an excuse not to move forward in life. It prevented me from being fully engaged in my relationships because I had to constantly keep up my guard. It prevented me from fully being myself.
Keeping a guard up is emotionally exhausting!
I decided to admit once and for all that it was not others “doing me wrong”, but my own attitudes and thought processes and choices that had done me wrong.
When I allowed myself to be honest with myself and then was willing to forgive myself, my victim mentality started to dissipate and eventually completely dissolved, just as Eckart Tolle suggested in the above quote.
Forgiving myself brought a new sense of power over my life and with this power, I began to make choices that were in alignment to who I truly was.
I am so grateful that I finally faced myself honestly No longer being a victim and instead being fully present with myself has allowed so many new opportunities, synchronicities, and connections to present themselves into my life.
No longer blaming the darkness has allowed the light to shine in!
--Tina Su
Photo by Paul Bica.
“Self-pity is easily the most destructive of the nonpharmaceutical narcotics; it is addictive, gives momentary pleasure and separates the victim from reality.” ~John W. Gardner(Continued from Part 1)
The problem with blaming something outside of us is this: when we play victim, we give away our power. Then, when we live from a place of disempowerment, we continue to attract more of the same into our lives. Essentially, it becomes like a vicious circle that seems impossible to break away from.
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Melanie Wednesday, May 18, 2011
I enjoyed your thoughts on this matter.I think I too might be a victim of self-pity but all the while too wrapped up in my perfection to know. I plan to think let this simmer a while. But I think I like what see.