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How to Deal with a “Scrooge”

During our September contest, I asked you to submit your own good mood blog topic, and a few of you requested that I write a post on “how to deal with negative people.” Well, with the holidays coming up, there are no doubt people who have a constant “bah humbug” attitude, and will do a number on your good mood. Here are some ways you can deal with that Scrooge in your life.

Identify Them – Chances are likely you have friends and family members who have been by your side for years and years, and you have just come to accept them for who they are. But do any of these people leave you feeling worse than you did before you spent the afternoon with them? By being aware of the negative people in your life, it becomes easier to do something to make your situation better. Just look for certain traits that people exhibit: do they complain or make you feel uncomfortable being with them in public? Does your energy feel depleted when you’re around them or do you have the desire to get away from them?

If any of these are the case, or if someone can only talk about how bad things are, you might just have a Scrooge on your hands. If you do, you can deal with their negativity and more importantly, help them realize it and deal with it themselves.

Help them Realize It – Chances are likely that you are much more aware of another person’s negativity than they are. But negativity, like bad breath or something stuck in one’s teeth should be subtly pointed out to the person so that they can do something about it before they open their mouths again. Don’t be angry or confrontational about it, though, because then you’re being just as negative. Instead, try using another tactic, like asking them to “tell you something good” or positive after they have just complained. They’ll likely consider how negative they are being, and apologize or make some adjustments. If they take offense, then you might have a real sourpuss on your hands. When all else fails, just change the subject.

Let Them Go – If this is someone with whom you cannot salvage a relationship, then it might be time to let them go. That is not to say you have to avoid them at all costs, just know that if they are not making a concerted effort to become a less negative person, then you might have to make room for more positive people in your life. If you ignore negative people, you are depriving them of the attention they desire, so they might just be able to move on to whomever will give it to them. Which can be a good thing for you, but a bad thing for the next victim.

The holidays can already be stressful enough as it is, so don’t subject yourself to being the prey of negative energy. You can do away with the scrooge in your life without having to say “bah humbug” yourself. How do you cope with the negative people in your life?

good mood blog topic, and a few of you requested that I write a post on “how to deal with negative people.” Well, with the holidays coming up, there are no doubt people who have a constant “bah humbug” attitude, and will do a number on your good mood. Here are some ways you can deal with that Scrooge in your life.

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