Taking My Own Advice
It's a little scary to throw a big party because there's always the fear that no one will come.
I suspect that even the most confident of hosts has a moment, when the cheeses are perfectly arranged and the drinks are chilled and the flowers are on the table, and she's just waiting for the noise of first guests arriving, when she wonders if anyone will really show up.
It's alright to have that thought, as long as it doesn't stop you from throwing a party if you want to. I admit that every time I arrange a party, I protect myself by focusing on the fact that if no one shows up, I will have all the delicious food to myself. I work myself up into being so excited about having a refrigerator full of finger foods and dessert for the next week, so much that I am almost disappointed when people start arriving.…
When I was small, and I would fall and scrape my knee or something, instead of wanting to be comforted, I would hide the scrape with my hands and run away to be alone somewhere, where I would examine my injury and cry where no one could see me. Some of us are born with this instinct. It doesn't usually serve us well.
I'm in this frame of mind today because of everything that has recently happened with Maddy, which I'll go into another time on my personal blog. But the point I wanted to make was that letting people who care about you do something nice for you, leaning on them, and not hiding alone with what's hurting you… if that doesn't come naturally to you, it's worth trying to learn. People are amazingly sympathetic and good; let them be that to you.
-Brigitte
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June 23 Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Can you please make a 5 or 10 second video of you atleast saying hello to the people who miss your video blogs? like me :)
romeo Wednesday, June 23, 2010
the real world is a fool's paradise.
sharing intimacy is the only genuine gesture of courage in all of humanity.
it's easier to hide in a crowd than it is to stand alone.
it takes a great deal of time to realize how truly interdependent we really are to what we love as it is to accept the rooted wisdom inherent in our primal nature.
love yourself however passionately with trust -just be certain to leave no regrets behind.....
Blargal Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Hello, Brigitte.
If you know the people you invited very well, it is a safe bet many of them will show up. A lot can be learned by the way they respond to the invitation. An in person invite, with an enthusiastic yes, will guarantee at least 1 attendee. A letter or e mail sent out, may be overlooked on their part.
I hope Maddy is still with us for a while..
Mark Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Praying for you Brig, and thanks for sharing. It's my birthday tomorrow and I wrestled with throwing a party, I told myself it was because I didn't like the fuss, but secretly I think I feared no one would turn up.
Peas M : )
Joe436 Thursday, June 24, 2010
If you have any left over mini pizza bagels, send them to me. I love those things.
Tim Thursday, June 24, 2010
If it's a matter of getting Maddie an expensive (leg?) surgery and not quite having the dough...its a LOCK that you would be able to raise more than enough money with the help of your fans (friends!) donations. If you pass the hat around (paypal?)...we WILL come thru for you. Definitely.